Custody Preparation for Moms is a website to provide
information to fit and loving mothers who have found themselves in the
quagmire of a contested child custody case.
Much of the information presented here is geared to those mothers who
have been the victims of domestic violence in the relationship with their
children's father, or whose children are victims of family violence either
having been abused directly, or indirectly harmed as child witnesses to
their mother's victimization by their father.
It is recognized, however, that the current family court climate across
the nation is exhibiting a backlash against mothers in general. The Tender
Years Doctrine, which once acknowledged young children's primary bonding
and attachments to their mothers, was struck down many years ago as being
gender-biased. Mother's can no longer assume any sort of preferential
treatment due to their gender and little regard is given to their primary
Father's rights advocates have continued to push for mandatory joint
legal and physical custody legislation and espouse skewed "research"
studies claiming paternal superiority and demonizing single motherhood to
state legislatures, Congress, family court systems and the media. Their
lobbying has resulted in state legislation and national social agendas
that elevate father's rights over the rights of the children, the health,
safety and well being of the children, and diminishment of support systems
and safety for mothers.
A higher standard of parenting and character is sometimes applied to
mothers in our nation's courtrooms. Although much of the information found
here is more relevant to abused women and protective mothers of abused
children, many of the same legal tactics are being used to coerce all
mothers into custodial arrangements which may be developmentally
inappropriate, educationally or medically inappropriate, lack in
stability, and may be harmful to their children's overall well-being.
Often, fathers' documented histories of violence, substance abuse,
criminal activity, non-involvement with the children, and other indicators
of poor parenting are excused, minimized or ignored.
Please view the information and use what you find relevant to your own
Above all, hold dear to your belief in yourself and your children. If
you are a good, fit and loving mother, you have not entered into divorce
and custody litigation lightly. You will encounter many along the way that
will claim to know better than you what is best for your children. Follow
your instincts, your heart, and the on-the-job qualifications you have
gained as your children's mother. YOU know what is ultimately in
the best interests of your children. Don't ever give up on yourself, or
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