Suggested Domestic Violence Safety Plan
Pack a bag and have it ready. Keep it hidden but
make it easy to grab quickly. The following is a general
list of things women should take with them when they leave an abusive
situation. Some items can also be stored at a trusted friend or
family members home in advance of a planned exit.
Identification-- birth certificates for yourself and your children,
drivers license or other photo ID, green card, work permit, social
security card, passport(s), etc.
> Health records--school
and vaccination records.
> Money- checkbook, ATM card,
cash, credit cards, change for telephone calls (keep change on your person
at ALL times. If a telephone credit card is used, the
following month the bill will tell the batterer who and where you called.
Keep this information confidential by using a prepaid phone card, using a
friend's telephone card, calling collect, or using
> Keys- home, work, car. Consider leaving
another set with a trusted friend or relative.
Medication for you and your children.
> Prescription eye
wear: glasses, contact lenses
> Divorce/custody papers/orders.
> Protective order.
> Lease or rental
agreement, house deed, mortgage payment book.
papers: medical/health, etc.
> Jewelry or other
small items of value you can sell.
> Address book/needed
> Clothes for you and your children--winter
gear, if applicable
> Children's comfort items--teddy
bear, pacifiers, lovies
> Sentimental items- irreplaceable
photographs, small heirlooms or momentos
neighbors about your abuse and ask them to call the police when
they hear a disturbance.
Teach your children to use the telephone to call the police and
the fire department
Learn the number for your local domestic violence shelter
Have a code word to use with your
kids, family and friends. Upon hearing this word or phrase, they will know
to call the police and get you help.
Know where you are going
to go, if you ever have to leave. Learn the location of your
local domestic violence shelter if that choice becomes
Use your instincts. Fear is a innate
gift. Use it. Victims have the most knowledge about their
abuser. Move beyond denial and tap into your instinct, intuition and
judgment. Violence is often predictable.
Increase your independence by opening a savings or
checking account in your name only and begin depositing whatever you can
safely afford there.
Rehearse your safety plan and practice it with your
Review your safety plan with a friend,
therapist or advocate from time to time
You have the right to
protect yourself and your kids. Protect yourself and your
children until you are all out of danger.
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