Personalized Safety Plan
This plan was generalized for use in other jurisdictions
from a plan found at Metro Nashville
Police Department. a.
If I decide to leave, I
Step 1. Safety during violence.
I can use the following options:
(practicing how to get
out of your home safely)
b. I can keep a bag ready and put
it______________________ so I can leave quickly.
c. I can
tell________________________________about the violence and have them call
the police when violence erupts.
d. I can teach my children
to use the telephone to call the police and the fire
e. I will use this word
code________________________________for my children, friends, or family to
call for help.
f. If I have to leave my home, I will
(Be prepared even if you think
you will never have to leave.)
g. I can teach these
strategies to my children.
h. When an argument erupts, I
will move to a safer room such as
avoid arguments in the bathroom, garage, kitchen, near weapons or in rooms
without access to an outside door)
i. I will use my
instincts, intuition, and judgment. I will protect myself and my children
until we are out of danger.
Step 2. Safety when getting
ready to leave.
I can use the following
a. I will leave money and an extra set of keys
b. I will
keep important documents and keys
I will open a savings account by this
date___________________________________ to increase my
d. Other things I can do to increase my
The domestic violence hotline is _____________________.
The shelter's hotline is _________________________.
will keep change for phone calls with me at ALL times. I know that
if I use a telephone credit card, that the following month the telephone
bill will tell the batterer who I called after I left. I will keep this
information confidential by using a prepaid phone card, using a friend's
telephone card, calling collect, or using change.
h. I will
check with_________________________ and ______________________ to know who
will let me stay with them or who will lend me money.
can leave extra clothes with___________________________.
I will review my safety plan every ___________________(time frame) in
order to plan the safest route.
I will review the plan with
______________________________ (a friend, counselor or
k. I will rehearse the escape plan and practice
it with my children.
Step 3. Safety At Home
can use the following safety methods:
a. I can change the
locks on my doors and windows as soon as possible.
b. I can
replace wooden doors with steel doors.
c. I can install
security systems- i.e. additional locks, window bars, poles to wedge
against doors, electronic sensors, etc.
d. I can purchase
rope ladders to be used for escape routes from the second
e. I can install smoke detectors and buy fire
extinguishers for each floor of my home.
f. I can install an
outside lighting system that lights up when someone approaches my
g. I will teach my children how to use the phone to
make collect calls to me and to ___________________________ (friend,
family, minister) if my partner tried to take them.
will tell the people who care for my children, who has permission to pick
up my children. Inform the following people:
i. I can tell my the following people that my partner no longer lives
with me and that they should call the police if he is near my
Step 4. Order of Protection
The following steps will help enforce
the order of protection:
a. I will keep the protection
order______________________(the location). Always keep it with
b. I will give my protection order to police
departments in the areas that I visit my friends, family, where I live,
and where I work.
c. If I visit other counties, I will
register my protection order with those counties.
d. I can
call the local domestic violence agency if I am not sure how to register
my protection order with the police departments.
e. I will
tell my employer, my church leader, my friends, my family and others that
I have a protection order.
f. If my protection order gets
destroyed, I know I can go to the courthouse and get another
g. If my partner violates the protection order, I will
call the police and report it. I will call my lawyer, my advocate,
counselor, and/ or tell the courts about the violation.
If the police do not help, I will call my advocate or my attorney AND I
will file a complaint with the Chief of the Police
i. I can file a private criminal complaint with
the district judge in the jurisdiction that the violation took place or
with the District Attorney. A domestic violence advocate will help me do
Step 5. Job and Public Safety
I can do the following:
a. I can tell my boss, security, and
_______________ at work about this situation.
b. I can ask ___________________________________ to help screen my phone calls.
c. When leaving work I can do the following:
d. When I am driving home from work and problems arise, I can
e. If I use public transportation, I can:
f. I will shop at different grocery stores and shopping malls at different
hours than I did when I was with my partner. I will try to vary
regular routines and routes.
g. I will use a different
bank and bank at different hours than I did when I was with my
h. I can also do the
Step 6. Drug and Alcohol Use.
I can enhance my safety if I do the following:
a. If I am going to use, I am going to do it in a
safe place with people who understand the risk of violence and who are
committed to my safety.
b. I can
c. If my partner is using, I can________________________________________________________________
d. I can also___________________________________________________________________
e. To protect my children, I can____________________________________________________________
Step 7. Emotional Health
I can do the following:
a. If I feel depressed and ready to return to a potentially violent
situation/ partner, I can
I can call ____________________________________________________________________
b. When I have to talk to my partner in person or on the phone, I can
c. I will use "I" statements and I will be assertive with people.
d. I can tell myself
when I feel people are trying to control or abuse me.
e. I can call the following people and/ or places for support:
f. Things I can do to make me feel stronger are:
I will keep this document in a safe place and out of the reach of my
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